Thanks for the replies, It sort of confirmed the feeling I had, I am angry, but not really at the woman, I have done enough research and read enough from here, and have experienced first hand some things from the long term relationship, that I know it is because they are so embedded with lies and deciets and that out of fear of man, (NOT GOD) that they do what ever the organization tells them to do. I think I will write this woman, tell her while I know she was meaning to do good the impact it made on me and I might even witness to her myself. Not that it will do any good, but you never know.
As far as the relationship goes, It has been a long 3 1/2 years, and I know that it is not going to go anywhere because of the religion. When we got into the argument over the letter, he made a comment I was scared to talk to someone else in the organization and I plainly told him I am not scared of much, I tell my boss off at least once a week, and I have taken down tag numbers of drugh dealers by walking behind thier car when they lived across the street from me, I am not the one scared of men in an organization more than GOD, and through his actions and ways over the last 3 1/2 years if JW was the only choice left for me I would not choose to convert because of the deciets and half truths I have witnessed through him and what he has done and been through with the organization. He has been disfellowshiped for last year ( nothing to do with me) . Why do I stay with him, because I do love him, and with what I have been through with losing my daughter at least there is someone there for me the only way I can deal with for now. I can live in my fantasy world and pray that my angel daughter will visit him in his dreams and help in a way I have not been able to. I will say her death affected him in a way that i was surprised that it did.